This is a page I've wanted to do ever since I began my website.  I've never understood how people can be so racists or prejudice.

Racism as defined means:
The prejudice that members of one race are intrinsically superior to members of other races

Racialism:
discriminatory or abusive behavior towards members of another race.

Prejudice:
Injury or damage resulting from some judgment or action of another in disregard of one's rights or claims preconceived judgment of opinion..an adverse opinion or learning formed without just grounds or before sufficient knowledge. An  instance of such judgment or opinion an  irrational attitude of hostility directed against  an individual, a group, a race, or their supposed characteristics....

Bringing it into our homes it would include: The kids "down the street" who may not have the  money to "dress" to someone else's standard...and just who is setting these standards?  Or maybe the kids or family across the street maybe because they were born in a "different"country than we were born in. So in our ignorance, we teach our own children to "stay away" from them...and fear them because they happen to be "different" from us!!!!

If you are of a certain "Christian" religion the people who don't go to your particular church are judged by the church members and you  will surely head down the path of self destruction and go straight to hell if you aren't worshipping your God just like they do.....They tend to "play" God instead of living love and by example.

They will question you and you will begin to avoid them because you don't like being questioned.  Or you just may not know the answers, because they are not coming from you and your heart.....but  from the other people at that church..or your Pastor  and that church believes in and they are taught to judge others who don't believe what your church is teaching!!!!!!???????

In my opinion it is so very simple...all humans, (humane) or not, are made up of the same skin,  a body under the skin, a brain, other distinct characteristics that we all share. The only thing that sets us apart, is where we were born..in what country we happened to be born. That is what determines where we are going to grow up..usually determines your religious background each family unit will have their own moral values.

As we grow as a person..our views may change and be different even from our parents.  If that is the case then we may think, well, maybe I'd like to try living somewhere else in the world.

We will have our own moral values, as we grow as a person, our views may change and be different from our parents.  That doesn't mean anyone
is right and the other is wrong...we may want to try another religion, or life style...at this point  we need to respect our parents and their beliefs, and they in turn should respect the changes in us. 

  I realize we all don't have a "perfect" family life. I'm sure there are very few "perfect" families.  We are human and we all make mistakes..but  the basic respect for ourselves and others will 
allow us to become distinct individuals and grow as a person and as family members.  The most important thing is to become the best person we can be without ever judging others, and allowing them to be a unique individual without trying to  place our belief's on others.

The formative years are so important..if we could just teach love and acceptance of others, we would be on the right road for a happy and fulfilling life....I believe there is no right or wrong only consequences....our children must be taught from a very early age to take responsibility for themselves...instead we place blame on others...We can always find an "excuse" for our behavior. We need to teach our children to be responsible for themselves and their decisions.  To own up to their mistakes and learn from them...why can't this be taught in every grade in school as well 
as at home??

Everyone makes mistakes but as we grown and even into adulthood, we always think "we're the only one that screws up or doesn't succeed in a certain task...someone said there is no such thing as failure. it is a judgment...you have only failed when you fail to try....with each "mistake" comes a valuable lesson, learn from that ..

 
No matter what country you were born in you are still a "person"...all humans are "people" .. now it isn't really hard to figure out..we are all  the same...the same species if you will..:) How did we become so different ?

Our heritage, which I describe as how you are  brought up by your parents..that goes back one 
generation further and how your parents were brought up and so on.  So the only real difference..is where 
in the world you and your particular family  grew up and with what standards were set and the environment they lived in.  We have so much to  learn from each other and from other cultures and peoples but instead of embracing their differences and wanting to learn we want to inflict our belief's our up-bringing, our religion, our mentality on the people we meet. thus begins the contest I guess...who's going to win?? why does it have to be a contest??? Who's
going to give in and give up their own ideas for  someone else's, because maybe they sound better or maybe they are easier, or for whatever reason. It is at this point that it really gets messed up. Why can't we respect each other and the differences in our lives.  We have so much to learn , what a wonderful experience it has been for me to learn from others...It's fascinating the different cultures that are on this planet...As far as I'm concerned they are all "right"..how can they not be...who are we to judge?????

There are so many people I have met in my life and at my age, I have come to realize they are all so different, yet they are all wonderful in their own
way...some aren't so wonderful..but that's  "life"..you will be a much happier person if you can  set aside the negative forces, negative people in your life and concentrate on the positive.  You don't need negative people in your life and you have a right to chose, thus the "live and let live" quote...so easy! The negative people will want to drag you down with them.  The positive people will lift you up with them..being up is so much happier....

Just remember the most important thing is you have a choice..this is your life and being able to chose who you want in your life and who you don't want is your choice......we must agree that it is OK to disagree without  judgment....just let go and be happy...take care of  yourselves and that is enough for any of us..

It is my belief that socializing with the world should be a required class taught in every school in America.
beginning in the first grade and never ending  till the kids graduate from High School. We took our youngest daughter out of our local High   school for this very reason.  the "socializing" began at the teacher level and dribbled down through to the kids.  The cliques made me want to puke..and some of the teachers were just as involved as the kids..If you were an "upper class" student, dressed nice, did sports, did whatever else "they" thought you should do. if you weren't interested in sports, didn't have the "right"clothes or for whatever reason..maybe you wore glasses and a group of kids decided  you looked funny, so they teased this person...the list goes on and on you get the idea, we've all been there.  It makes me heart sick and physically sick, it is so hurtful.  I know it isn't everybody,but it's enough to make some kids absolutely miserable.

It would be my dream that our teachers could be guiding the kids to a higher  understanding..a higher plane of self confidence..a simple respect
for other human beings..and themselves. No matter who they are, where they come from, where they
live...it seems so simple to me...why isn't it being done in the schools...and most important at home??

I'm not saying that all humans are compatible..but trying to reach a higher level of understanding
is what we need to respect them as individuals and show our respect for that.  I always told my kids you don't have to like everybody but  to be polite and that's all you have to do.    It isn't written where you have to be "best" friends with someone you don't like, or someone that has different standards and differences that just aren't compatible with yours.  Not
liking certain people is natural it's not really the person we don't like but maybe what they are doing, only because it isn't our way......but it isn't up to us to judge, just accept who they are and that's enough ...no one can like everybody...Except God...I venture to guess that  even God doesn't like everybody...maybe because of what they do, but you can bet he "loves" everybody and has given us the tools to make our life loving and rewarding by helping others.  I believe that is our purpose on this earth, to help each other get through .. We all are human and the judgment day comes at the end of our life not on a daily basis...that's why he gave us a brain to think with, to chose with, to live our lives with love to all things...and a soul to love each other with.  So that daily judging should come  from within ourselves..always striving to improve.
We may not like the way other's do things ...but if the job gets done, who are we to judge how it was accomplished.  Some people have become control freaks, they expect the whole world to conform to them.

So many things just "don't matter"...let it go..if someone is different and you don't understand.. then either make friends and find out about them, or just don't have them in your life anymore than you  have to.  Some people we just "click" with,it's
amazing thing to me..it takes just one look,  just one gesture, just one smile and that person has  left a print on your heart that will stay there forever.
Other people just come and go in and out of our lives.... but  some of these people have made a difference in our life just by meeting them or knowing them, even for a short time. One day we will see something that will remind us about a certain person that we barely knew that crossed our path at one point in our life.  It's all part of the "big plan" you know...it is not in our hands. I really believe that..it's time we decided to get along with people, our neighbors, our community there is so much we can do to make a difference.. we need to start with our children.  I just can't imagine it being so difficult...It's a lot easier, and
it can happen one family, one person, one childhood at a time....

I could go on for a few more pages, I hope I haven't lost everybody by now..and know that  I'm just a person like you and I hope by sharing my thoughts, I might find others that share my views.

I'm not proud of what we "Americans" did to the Native Americans when we came here and assassinated their family's. and tried to take their heritage away from them by beating them and not letting them speak in their own language....they are the only "true" Americans in America.. we did horrible things to them, beyond my imagination...I don't think we were any more "civilized" than a lot of so called "tribes" in other countries.
I think we have come a long way as a nation, but not far enough.  I would have hoped that this racism  was over and ended long before now..and sadly
it seems as strong as ever.

I lived during the late 40's and 50's..I remember Martin Luther King and the other advocates for  ending racism.....how sad for them that they
didn't make a bigger difference..

Well, thanks for listening to me ramble..it's my soap box... I will own it and hope someone else out there has my feelings and hopes for our children and our country....

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